Dating a Sugar Daddy
Ok so I was at a function a couple of weeks ago and I met this guy. He is charming and sweet, he always knows the right thing to say and just looks at me like I am some sort of treasure. And he is a little over double my age, but there is just something about him he just had sex appeal and a pretty good body as well. So I agreed to go have a coffee with him some time. I have probably seen him a couple of times since then and he is great we can just talk for ages and we really get along. Yesterday I went to meet him for lunch and well he has given me presents before things like glass blown flowers, and a box of chocolates with my name written in chocolate, and I thought it was so sweet. But yesterday I was given a hand bag that I saw when we were walking past a shop a little while ago, generally I would be seriously impressed by the fact that he remembered or even paid attention to the fact that I liked it. but in this case all I could think of is that I have only known this guy a few weeks, I haven't even slept with him and I knew this hand bag way a little over $2000. so I brought it up I mean I was happy and excited it is after all a beautiful bag but excuse me for saying WHAT THE FUCK, this is not the sort of thing guys do. So I then find out after talking it all over with him that he is loaded like seriously rich, and he is looking for a girl like me that he connects with to basically take care of. He wants to take me on trips to where ever in the world, let me have basically whatever I want designer clothes, pay my living expenses everything I could imagine. All because he loves spending time with me and having someone like me (young and beautiful) by his side. I am still a little bit amazed by this especially when he referred to it as being my benefactor. I have been toying with the moral idea of this, I know that I started seeing him without knowing his bank account or expecting anything like this, but now that it has been put on the table would it be wrong of me to continue. I couldn't sleep last night so I stayed up surfing the net on older guy relationships and came across the whole Sugar Daddy thing. And realised that this is exactly what that is he want to be my Sugar Daddy and wants me to become his Sugar Baby. I have realised that this is actually a common thing older guys spending thousands of dollars each month on young attractive girls to keep them in a lifestyle they have never experienced before. Now that I know how wide spread it is I am a little more at ease but that doesn't change my original thought, is it morally right. I am supposed to be having dinner with him on Thursday night and let him know what my decision is. so do I stop seeing him because I know what there is to gain, or do I continue to see him not because of what is to gain (that would just be like a bonus) but because of how I felt the first time I met him before I knew all of this, and the connection that I do have with him.
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hope darling - 30 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AULMAO, I don't care how much the lingerie costs there will be no Donkey action.
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(Private Profile) - 28 Mar, 09
-What's wrong with Fabi-oh-so. Where do I start Mercs???? It's just wrong on every level!! And the clincher...."I can't believe it's not butter!"
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(Private Profile) - 27 Mar, 09
-HAHAHAHA yeah...was pretty funny cos we thought you were digging the chick scarf he was soooooo wearing and omfg, that Fabio-style haircut he was sporting....
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hope darling - 30 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AUYes it was interesting. and having to listen to all that crap about actually i don't know what it was about I wasn't really listening to him. I was just thinking the whole time get the hell away from me. oh and I just remembered what about the daning asian guy with the pink shirt that he ended up hanging out with.
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(Private Profile) - 27 Mar, 09
-Wealthy bachelor's club...hmmm....hope they're not members of a lawn bowls assosciation! hehe. But yeah, definately come to Sydney with him and I'll sus him out for you...much like I did with Swedish dude LOL
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hope darling - 27 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AUYes I must admitt you were a great help with the swedish dude who now thinks we are a couple. but if I remember correctly I did have to ask you to save me. as you all thought it was hillarious watching him try and pick me up.
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(Private Profile) - 26 Mar, 09
-Oh well, he sounds like he has it all worked out, wonder if he has done this before? Just go on how you feel about him, enjoy his company and if the spending and spoiling makes you really uncomfortable, ask him to curb it a little until you are. Ohh and does he have a son? Sass the Sugar Mummy!
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hope darling - 30 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AUYes he has a son but he is like under 10 so you might have to put him on layby.
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nux (FF Host) - 25 Mar, 09
Brunswick Heads, NSW, AUoh yeah, so it does... now thats interesting... normally when a message is chopped its because it contains illegal characters....like holding down shift and hitting a number type characters. Hmm, Sam will want to have a look at that i'd say.
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nux (FF Host) - 25 Mar, 09
Brunswick Heads, NSW, AUummm, thats what it does say....
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(Private Profile) - 25 Mar, 09
-One Pleeeeease hire me as tour guide, PLEEEEASE!!!! lol it will be one big party girl and hell, I'll even round up Griffy and Romey to be our shopping bag carriers!! hahahaha
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(Private Profile) - 25 Mar, 09
-Doh! my comment got chopped again. Should have read: One word..WOOOOHOOOOO!!! Pleeeeease hire me as tour guide, PLEEEEASE!!!! lol it will be one big party girl and hell, I'll even round up Griffy and Romey to be our shopping bag carriers!! hahahaha
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hope darling - 25 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AUDon't worry I will definatly be calling in your services for when I come down. He has some friends down there as well, (wealthy bachelors just like him)I swear these men must belong to some sort of club. so you will get to meet some of them as well.
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nux (FF Host) - 25 Mar, 09
Brunswick Heads, NSW, AUHope, if its the money that is making it morally tough for you... i'm poor, so i'll put my hand up any day ;-)
I think you're smart enough to know if your attracted to him or his money, and i think you already half answered that. You said you enjoyed his company, enough to even see him a few more times....the question you need to ask YOURSELF is was it going anywhere further before you knew about his dosh. On the flipside the questions you needs to ask HIM are many. Any ex wives around that are going to be a problem? any kids? if so, how does that make you feel? is the money real or a front? what is his business? Remember one very important rule in life Hope, "if something seems too good to be true, it usually is". With that in mind, its not always the case, but you need to be very weary, and you need to explain to him that you are going to need a lot of answers - if he gets the shits with all the questions, then something's up - and dont fall for the lame excuse "can't a guy show his apreciation for a pretty girl" or "you're worth it"... thats just a sidestep. The advice you've already received is great advice - you owe him nothing... so often these guys try to buy themselves a girl, and the girls are forced to put up with all sorts of abuse because they feel guilty....its a power trip, don't fall for it.
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(Private Profile) - 24 Mar, 09
-Ahhh Hope, does he expect sexual benefits? If so, I would be waiting to make that decision until after youve slept with him. You wouldnt jump into any long term kind of commitment without knowing how that works first, what if he's a dud?
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hope darling - 25 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AUthanks for the advice, I have raised that question with him as to what he actually expects from me. he has basically said that he would never want me to feel uncomfortable or do anything that I am not ok with. he wants to treat is as a normal relationship and not do anything until I am comfortable and feel it is the right time. He also knows that I had surgery last week so I am unable to that stuff until the doctor says it is ok anyways, and he is really good about it, he doesn't even mind that I have cuts on my stomach they may end up scaring. after he cleared that up ofcourse I liked him just that little bit more.
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(Private Profile) - 24 Mar, 09
-Hope, stay focused on the reasons that attracted you to him in the first place...well before you knew his bank balance. I say enjoy each day as it comes...the fact he can comfortably afford to buy you $2000 bags is simply a bonus! Just don't ever let him use his generosity against you...eg: "I bought you this, therefore you owe me"
I'm excited for you though!! Does he have a brother?? LOL
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hope darling - 25 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AUSorry babe, no brother but I have found out that he has allot of friends. all of whome are very similar to him in allot of ways. I am going to some fundraiser thing with him next weekend where I get to meet them all, I'll see if I can get some business cards for you.
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hope darling - 25 Mar, 09
Edens Landing, QLD, AUoh I may also be coming to Sydney sooner than expected. he really likes Sydney and I was talking to him last night about how I hadn't been there in ages and when I finally got to go it rained the whole time. So he want to take me there again and show me the parts of Sydney that he really likes. Which apparently includes designer shopping.
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Edens Landing, QLD, AU
Trust me if you were there you would no longer think of Fabio in the same way. not if you saw the scarf.