To Cheat or Not to Cheat (Ok, this is my first blog so bare with me please (Never been in the blog thing. But after reading a few this morning, my opinion has changed)

Ow you got me blushing babe.

Iam gunna rock your socks off baby, the next time we chat.

Talk soon dearest Bitty

Miss Bitty, I hope all is well with you babe.

I shale take on board you advice babe.

Thank You, Chat Soon

Thanks for your advice babe.

Now, have I cheated before. what do you think ?

Married young, been in my relationship for nearly 15 years, Iam 29 do the maths babe.

Chat soon

Brissy is back :)

Dude, I respect your wisdom.

Thank you for you input Brissy, chat soon dude.

Regards
Someone that wants your wife :) (I had to dude)

So true Missy.

Thank you for your words of wisdom babe, I shale take them on-board.

Chat Soon babe

PS - Im still Loyal :)

Beast123 only you will ever know if you feel okay if you cheat or not. I have the policy in my life that if you can't be that honest with your loved one then perhaps they are not the right one for you. My husband of 20 years was my best friend and although our marriage fell apart, our friendship has not. We are still good friends and co-habit for now. Although that does not work for everyone it is what is right for us at the moment.

Not once in 22 years with him did I ever cheat on him. We cheated together by going to swingers parties and having 4somes etc but that way we didn't need to look outside our marriage.

So you have to decide if your life partner would be in that with you or if your relationship is perfect for you other than that fact. Some people can have affairs becos it solves that problem for them but once again you are the only person who truly knows if it is right for you!!!

I hope you work it out for yourself Beasty and it is the right choice for you!!! xox

Thanks, I appreciate your kind words

Pain that I deal with now is not so bad...and I don't allow previous things in my life define the person that I am now, I have chosen to let that all go, because its of very little importance....but when you really love and loose someone then you realise what life is truly about.....and its not worrying every 5 minutes about stuff that has happened when you were young.....I can deal with the pain, but I worry about any future pain and how I will cope with that to be honest....its funny, I feel more for the future pain that I may have in my life and loosing someone special now than all the other things....classic anxiety symptom

p.s I am good and your blog is interesting

hug

Every day that I am here, is another good day...........I have wonderful family whom I have had to share 'everything' with.....I had to bare my soul to them last year about my relationship and the ins and outs that had been held.....I have a wonderful close family, of whom I shall be seeing next week

To cheat or not is defnitely the question ... I have always been a firm believer that I never judge anyone until I've walked in their shoes ... Im not perfect and ive never claimed to be but sometimes in life you are thrown someone that will come into your life to test you and your desires ... ive walked away a few times from those desires wishing that i didnt ...

Everyone is pouring their hearts out :)

Sorry all, I didn't mean to strike nerves

Regards
Your friendly manly beast

my story in brief...or as brief as I can keep it

young, had sex lots of vanilla sex.....sex where I didn't ever really know that I entirely fancied that person or whether I was just with them, for being with someone....played behind peoples back....felt the twinge of lust (mostly brief as again I was unsure of my sexuality), but mostly the pang and deep hurt of guilt.... I hurt me and I hurt others.....is this because I had never really felt comfortable about sex and me and my family had sure as hell never discussed it with me, unless to embarrass me
was date raped at a young age and indecently assaulted....who was taken to court..a strong 13 year old I was

had lots of guilt in my youth about me, sex and feelings and how I really felt
tears after sexual encounters...where I felt used for a night....would never see them again...always wanting much more but never knowing how

late 20's came, had enough, move to Australia.....meet future husband within 2 months....highly unexpected for him and for me
Had sex for the first time with someone who was quite open about it...knew how to make a woman feel special in bed....was very loving and caring and never made me feel that pang of guilt
My life takes a massive turn due to him taking his life.....my guilt that I ever felt before about anything, so much stronger now for the things that happened prior to his death, but a loss of all the angst that I've held before his death......makes you put things into perspective and I do not hold guilt now....only for what happened with him and I

lust, wanting needing others......this is usually because something isn't ticking all of the boxes.....I know whilst I was married I saw someone....I'm not proud of the fact, but understand now, because not everything was there for me

I am with someone now whom I adore....who fits me sexually.....who I can be honest with about my sexuality, about my hidden desires.....I have no desire to play behind his back....I have a urge to make him happy and also myself, which of course is important....I want to try things with him, that I never thought I would ever do, less contemplate even...things that are out of the ord....things I would not tell my sister....things that are in my secret life

Life is mapped out by our prejudices, or our expectations on how we should live.....oh to sociology....peoples expectations of us...what we feel we can do...how open we think we can be....will we be judged....who is our judge after all, but the one who you look back at in the mirror....we all have to be able to live with ourselves....and this for me is the key to be fulfilled and happy

I try now to not feel guilt....to allow myself to fall deeply in love again....to feel joy in the world and not focus on the negative....I have succeeded in this during the best part of this year. Noone is living my life for me...only me

Lecture time, hahaha

Chat soon baby - No emails for me ?

Thank you for your wise words Missy.

Chat soon babe

Nice story love.

I feel your pain all to well (Mothers death recently).

True: life is to short to be unhappy.

Chat soon DD